Public Speaking for the Publicly Inept

How to Conquer the Fear of Public Speaking based on the 11 Hidden Causes of Public Speaking Stress by Morton C. Orman, M.D.  https://sajidocean.wordpress.com/category/how-to-conquer-public-speaking-fear-by-morton-c-orman/

Power Thoughts to be a better public speaker:

  • I love Public Speaking
  • I do not have to be perfect to succeed!
  • I will be realistic in my information content
  • I will generously share my knowledge.
  • I will do my best every time I speak and I know I cannot please everyone.
  • I will be myself!
  • I will be open and welcome the opportunity to teach and learn from this experience.
  • I can handle each potential negative outcome positively.
  • I will spend my resources on the things I can control.
  • I will plan for this adventure and prepare myself appropriately.
  • I will live up to the challenge of giving this speech!

Practical Applications of Hospitality

The hospitality of a handshake and personal space are two simple areas to communicate with others and make them feel welcome.

A handshake can tell a lot about you without even speaking.

  • Make eye contact (Trustworthy)
  • Have a firm but not crushing grip (Reliable)
  • Maintain comfortable distance. (Respectful)
  • Do not “dominate” the handshake by twisting your hand so it is on top. (Headstrong/Stubborn) Don’t be “dominated” either. (Weak)

It is a privilege to be welcomed into someone’s personal space. Here are some tips for what to do when someone comes into yours uninvited:

  • You can always take the polite step back. Most will get the hint. If you have done this twice…
  • In a familiar, playful setting you may get away with a, “Hey there, back off buddy.”
  • In a business setting, a more formal phrase, “I can see your face/expression so much better from this point of view.”
  • In times of desperation, find an object that would be a natural barrier, like a desk, table, or chair and invite them into that space instead.

Professionalism

The goal of Householder Lifestyle Consulting (HLC) is to use the stewardship principles of hospitality, organization and professionalism to establish a framework for bringing success to your “living”.

What are you doing to increase your knowledge?

  • Take 10 minutes a day and read a book, newspaper, or website
  • Knowledge is Power. Use it wisely.

Correspondence

  • Send a card – whether by email, regular mail, or better yet hand deliver it.
  • Communication is what keeps us human. You have the power to change someone else’s life just by walking into it.

Actions

  • Actions speak louder than words.
  • What ethics and manners do your actions proclaim?
  • Take 10 minutes at the end of a day and evaluate how you lived that day. By improving ourselves daily the world will follow.

Organization – Finances

The goal of Householder Lifestyle Consulting (HLC) is to use the stewardship principles of hospitality, organization and professionalism to establish a framework for bringing success to your “living”.

Organization – Finances

Take 10 minutes a day and become empowered with the knowledge of your money. Make the phone calls or emails you have been putting off.

  • Have you checked your credit reports?
  • Do you have a budget?
  • Do you stick to it?
  • Do you pay off the high interest credit cards first?
  • Do you understand how to read your investment portfolios?

 

 

Hospitality – Greeting People

The goal of Householder Lifestyle Consulting (HLC) is to use the stewardship principles of hospitality, organization and professionalism to establish a framework for bringing success to your “living”.

Hospitality – Greeting People

  • Does your facial expression show your emotions? Is that a good thing?
  • What is your body language?
  • What words are you using to convey your thoughts. Are all thoughts appropriate for conversations?
  • What are your clothes saying?
  • Take 10 minutes a day to look in the mirror and study yourself
    • Watch how you say words. Words are powerful.
    • Watch how your face changes and then you can be attuned to empathize with other people.
    • Practice open body language in a mirror. It will bring you more awareness as well.
    • Go through your closet – don’t do the whole thing at once – just 10 minutes a day until it’s done.

Time Management

Time is the factor by which our priorities are reflected.  If you have determined your business is a priority, you must find the time to make it successful.  Period.

There are so many time management strategies out in the marketplace; time is big business so you don’t just have to take my word for it…making time=making money.

I have listed below some of the essential ingredients of a successful time management strategy:

  • You must make the time to plan your time. That means consistently setting aside at least 15 minutes a day to review your calendar.
  • Empower yourself to say no. You cannot welcome every opportunity.
  • Chunk your time. I use 2 hour increments and am sure to include travel time.
  • Take time to refresh you…make time for items that are good for you…exercise, family time, church, etc.
  • Ask yourself critical questions about the items that are filling your schedule now. Why are they essential?  Do they reflect your priorities?  Can you ask someone else to do this?
  • Keep ONE calendar for your whole life. Don’t have one in the kitchen for family stuff and one at work for work stuff.  Sometimes things overlap and you have to prioritize…
  • Make sure reoccurring items are in your calendar. If you have a meeting every Monday at 2pm with the Sales dept, make sure it is recurring on your calendar so you don’t have to write each individual appt.  Use technology to help you.
  • Who in your life is good at time management? Ask them about it and get some pointers.

 

 

Setting Up Your Office

So just like with bookkeeping, the office work you do does NOT have to be complicated or time consuming.  However, most businesses grossly underestimated the amount of time administration of their business will take them.  Managing phone calls, emails, marketing, etc. can be overwhelming if you haven’t set up your office space properly.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when you are setting up your office space:

First and foremost find a work area that you want to work in…Environment, view, and access are all primary considerations but first and foremost, you must make a space that invites you in to do the administration for your business.

This is a list of the essential supplies that must be within easy reach; there is nothing more frustrating that not having the right office supplies when you need them.

  • 3-Hole Punch
  • Binder Clips-large and small
  • 4 Bins-1 for unopened mail, 2 for bookkeeping  and 1 for marketing
  • Checkbook
  • Calculator
  • Computer/Laptop
  • Envelopes in various sizes
  • Erasers
  • Hanging File Folders/Manila Folders
  • Highlighters
  • Letter Opener
  • Paper Clips
  • Pencils
  • Pens
  • Phone (s)
  • Printer
  • Rubber-bands in various sizes
  • Ruler
  • Scissors
  • Shredder
  • Stamps
  • Stapler/Staples/Remover
  • Tablets in various sizes
  • Tape-Scotch and Correction
  • Trashcan-large
  • USB

Bookkeeping Tips

So Bookkeeping does NOT have to be complicated or time consuming.  However, most businesses grossly underestimated the amount of time administration of their business will take them, especially in the bookkeeping arena.  It does take time to set up your systems and make sure you understand your work flow but after that it is mostly maintenance.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when you are setting up your bookkeeping:

  • You should have a separate bank account for your business and personal life. I don’t care if you are a sole proprietorship.  Get a second account and keep your personal expenses separate from your business ones.
  • Have 2 bookkeeping to-do bins. One for income and one for expenses and do all income items first then all expense items.  Doing similar tasks at one time will save you time.
  • Don’t overcomplicate your filing. Unless you have a huge client or vendor you want to track separately, one folder each for income and expense per month will do.
  • Find a bookkeeping system that works for you. Some people still like pencil and paper and that’s ok.  Sometimes a simple excel spreadsheet will work for you or maybe you will need to purchase computer software.  The point is, you have to keep track of the money coming in and going out of your business if you want to be successful in the long-term.  You have to be able to generate reports that will enable you to make good business decisions.
  • Set aside time on your schedule to do bookkeeping at least twice a month.
    • I recommend keeping payroll and accounts payable on alternative weeks so there isn’t a big hit to you account all in one week.
  • You should be reconciling your bank accounts every month so set aside time to do that as well.

There are nuances to bookkeeping and it will help you start to see the cash flow in your business.  I hope this listing of some bookkeeping basics has been helpful.  I look forward to your feedback.

Trying something new…

So, here I am struggling with learning a new skill…blogging.

Ah…well struggling can be such a negative word…let’s say…here I am ready to conquer the new challenge of blogging.

Doesn’t that sound so much better?

And that can be the struggle, I mean challenge in business.  Choosing to see newly needed skill sets as a challenge and not just another item to put on the overwhelming to-do list.  Hence, the struggle…finding time to do all that must be done…

Did I say struggle…I meant challenge.